people that dont have "kinky" sex - Page 3

Spinning Hat · 12-15-2002, 07:00 PM

Don't forget to mention how expensive Porn is.

j/k

Xenocidez66 · 12-16-2002, 04:54 AM

To Laurelin
Yeah she just brushes me off. She just dosn't like to cuddle or hug or anything really. It's like she is totaly detached from the comforting emotions that most people have. And yes sometimes she gets mad as well. I don't know how many times that I have tried to talk to her about it only for her to brush me off, leave, change the subject, or get mad and do all of the above. It is all most imposible to talk to her about this, being that she dosn't think that its an issue or that important.

No I am not about to start chatting with anyone or cheating. I have gone three years now so I am not about to start now.

Any way thank you for your support it does help.

Stang · 12-16-2002, 05:33 PM

Man I think we need to take a trip up there to Iceland and talk your wife

. I can see how some women have troubles with sex and some just dont have that drive like others but its a relationship and there is someone else there that needs the love too

.

It is an issue and you just need to keep bringing it up and try to get her some help or like Delukas said have a huge fight about it and see what comes of it. A good fight is healthy everyonce in a while, brings things out that need to be discussed. Laurelin said it like I would have. Dont shy away from the subject keep it going cuz its not fair for either of you. Let her know what its doing to you, if she cares she should understand and compromise or something. I just dont think she wants to face this issue for some reason or a deeper issue.

Cuddling and foreplay ALWAYS works for me :yup, or a good massage

.

I hope she comes around sometime. And thank god for masturbation huh

.

I hope she comes around sometime.

XMEN Ashaman DTM · 12-17-2002, 12:04 AM

I think if Xeno and her can work this out, she'll come around, and in the kitchen, the living room, the bedroom, the car.... she'll come all over!!

Xenocidez66 · 12-17-2002, 12:49 AM

Yes Stang, I don't know what I would do if I didn't have hands. But if anyone is planing to vacation in Iceland please let me know and I will help with the arrangements, and we can get togeather for an evening or something.

I love cuddling and foreplay as well and when we lived in Alaska I used to give her all over body rubs with lotion after her shower and that was almost always fun.

As for working it out Ashaman I hope that we can as well and I hope that you are right because I am the "try most anything once" type of person.

Mobius · 12-17-2002, 04:46 AM

Hmmm... Is there a possability that for some reason or another some repressed childhood memories surfaced? Or maybe some other assault that happened but she's to ashamed to mention?

I say this because some people who are victims feel that they somehow brought it upon themselves and it's their fault. I'm no psychologist but I've been around long enough and have seen cases like this.

I hope it's nothing like that but now days you can never be sure.

Just though of another thing. Who's idea was it to move from Alaska to Iceland? Maybe she hates it there but doesn't want to admit it. Or maybe she is holding some resentment for some thing you did but didn't know you did but she thinks you should have realized by yourself what it is with out being told. Boy do women love to pull that one on us men.

yak · 12-17-2002, 05:51 AM

i think i just realized the reason that my counterpart is against the stuff that i like( with help from what mobius stated). i never stopped to consider that she may have been abused in her lifetime.

i should have been more considerate of her reasons why. all that i could think of was myself.

Aluscia · 12-17-2002, 01:20 PM

Yah, that's definitely one of my favs

Xenocidez66 · 12-18-2002, 08:21 AM

to Mobius:
You could be right with your train of thought of what I do know of her life it would make a great lifetime made for tv movie. But this wasn't always the case, the lack of intrest started about 3 years ago.

The reason we moved form Alaska is I was in the Air Force at the time I was there and got out. We moved back to my home and tried to live there for about a year and we ended up seperating. She moved back to Iceland and later we decided to get back togeather. Its a little more involved than that but thats the general idea.

Aluscia · 12-18-2002, 09:08 AM

Ah... I see.... Maybe she's just never felt reconnected with you? I hate to say this over and over again, but have you turned the romance notch up to Max? Really nice stuff, like flowers and dinners out on the town? Force your way back into her life... It just may be what she's waiting for.

Stang · 12-18-2002, 03:20 PM

Well Im glad to hear that your not one of those guys that gives up and decides he's done all he could and turns around and cheats on their partner. Keep beating at it and some day hopefully things will come thru for you guys.

I too had some really bad things happen to me in my life and somethings I get shy or back off of. I have come along way though and improve constently cuz I dont want to let it control me, I want to be better.

Oh the old you should know what you did and Im not going to tell you ahhh memories, oh wait I still do it

. You guys deserve it sometimes though, use that brain once in a while besides for computers and sex

.

Spinning Hat · 12-18-2002, 06:00 PM

There's more to life than computers and sex?

Xenocidez66 · 12-19-2002, 01:22 AM

To Spinning Hat:
If Stang says there is, there must be. Although I can't imagine.

Seriously

To Laurelin:
Well we really don't have the money to do things like that, but I do buy flowers when I have money and I am a GREAT cook and she gets wounderful meals at least 3 or 4 times a week and just last weekend we had a candle light dinner (alone no Kids). I try to be romantic but Johanna just isn't. She never really has been. Her idea of romantic is taking a hot bath, alone.

To Stang:
I do remember the way it used to be and back then our situation was diffrent and so was I. I made some huge changes in my life and for the better so I really don't want to do that again.

DooMKitty · 09-09-2004, 07:49 PM

WHIPS! CHAINS! STRANGLING! BITEING! SCRATCHING! PINCHING! pain turns me on!

yak · 09-10-2004, 07:29 AM

keep that quiet kitty, we cant let them know te he

12-15-2002, 07:00 PM	#31
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12-16-2002, 04:54 AM	#32
Xenocidez66 Forum Regular Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Iceland Age: 54 Posts: 207	To Laurelin Yeah she just brushes me off. She just dosn't like to cuddle or hug or anything really. It's like she is totaly detached from the comforting emotions that most people have. And yes sometimes she gets mad as well. I don't know how many times that I have tried to talk to her about it only for her to brush me off, leave, change the subject, or get mad and do all of the above. It is all most imposible to talk to her about this, being that she dosn't think that its an issue or that important. No I am not about to start chatting with anyone or cheating. I have gone three years now so I am not about to start now. Any way thank you for your support it does help. __________________ Knoledge is power. Power corrupts. Study hard. Be evil.

12-16-2002, 05:33 PM	#33
Stang Team Captain Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Everett, WA, USA Age: 50 Posts: 3,859 Xbox Leaderboard: 1^st	Man I think we need to take a trip up there to Iceland and talk your wife . I can see how some women have troubles with sex and some just dont have that drive like others but its a relationship and there is someone else there that needs the love too . It is an issue and you just need to keep bringing it up and try to get her some help or like Delukas said have a huge fight about it and see what comes of it. A good fight is healthy everyonce in a while, brings things out that need to be discussed. Laurelin said it like I would have. Dont shy away from the subject keep it going cuz its not fair for either of you. Let her know what its doing to you, if she cares she should understand and compromise or something. I just dont think she wants to face this issue for some reason or a deeper issue. Cuddling and foreplay ALWAYS works for me :yup, or a good massage . I hope she comes around sometime. And thank god for masturbation huh . I hope she comes around sometime. __________________

12-17-2002, 12:49 AM	#35
Xenocidez66 Forum Regular Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Iceland Age: 54 Posts: 207	Yes Stang, I don't know what I would do if I didn't have hands. But if anyone is planing to vacation in Iceland please let me know and I will help with the arrangements, and we can get togeather for an evening or something. I love cuddling and foreplay as well and when we lived in Alaska I used to give her all over body rubs with lotion after her shower and that was almost always fun. As for working it out Ashaman I hope that we can as well and I hope that you are right because I am the "try most anything once" type of person. __________________ Knoledge is power. Power corrupts. Study hard. Be evil.

12-17-2002, 04:46 AM	#36
Mobius Forum Regular Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 66	Hmmm... Is there a possability that for some reason or another some repressed childhood memories surfaced? Or maybe some other assault that happened but she's to ashamed to mention? I say this because some people who are victims feel that they somehow brought it upon themselves and it's their fault. I'm no psychologist but I've been around long enough and have seen cases like this. I hope it's nothing like that but now days you can never be sure. Just though of another thing. Who's idea was it to move from Alaska to Iceland? Maybe she hates it there but doesn't want to admit it. Or maybe she is holding some resentment for some thing you did but didn't know you did but she thinks you should have realized by yourself what it is with out being told. Boy do women love to pull that one on us men. Last edited by Mobius; 12-17-2002 at 04:52 AM.

12-17-2002, 12:04 AM	#34
XMEN Ashaman DTM Forum wh0re Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Seattle, WA Age: 46 Posts: 965	I think if Xeno and her can work this out, she'll come around, and in the kitchen, the living room, the bedroom, the car.... she'll come all over!!

12-17-2002, 05:51 AM	#37
yak Threadkiller Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: marysville, washington Age: 39 Posts: 537	i think i just realized the reason that my counterpart is against the stuff that i like( with help from what mobius stated). i never stopped to consider that she may have been abused in her lifetime. i should have been more considerate of her reasons why. all that i could think of was myself. __________________ One can smile, and smile, and still be a villian.-William Shakespeare Are you trying to tell me that the man who tried to put a rubber fist in my anus was a uhh.. homosexual?-Borat Last edited by yak; 12-17-2002 at 05:59 AM.

12-17-2002, 01:20 PM	#38
Aluscia Emo Queen 1000th Thread Main Forum Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: In a subterranean complex. Age: 41 Posts: 2,346	Yah, that's definitely one of my favs __________________ Favourite Song of the moment - Pyramid Song - Radiohead

12-18-2002, 08:21 AM	#39
Xenocidez66 Forum Regular Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Iceland Age: 54 Posts: 207	to Mobius: You could be right with your train of thought of what I do know of her life it would make a great lifetime made for tv movie. But this wasn't always the case, the lack of intrest started about 3 years ago. The reason we moved form Alaska is I was in the Air Force at the time I was there and got out. We moved back to my home and tried to live there for about a year and we ended up seperating. She moved back to Iceland and later we decided to get back togeather. Its a little more involved than that but thats the general idea. __________________ Knoledge is power. Power corrupts. Study hard. Be evil.

12-18-2002, 09:08 AM	#40
Aluscia Emo Queen 1000th Thread Main Forum Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: In a subterranean complex. Age: 41 Posts: 2,346	Ah... I see.... Maybe she's just never felt reconnected with you? I hate to say this over and over again, but have you turned the romance notch up to Max? Really nice stuff, like flowers and dinners out on the town? Force your way back into her life... It just may be what she's waiting for. __________________ Favourite Song of the moment - Pyramid Song - Radiohead

12-18-2002, 03:20 PM	#41
Stang Team Captain Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Everett, WA, USA Age: 50 Posts: 3,859 Xbox Leaderboard: 1^st	Well Im glad to hear that your not one of those guys that gives up and decides he's done all he could and turns around and cheats on their partner. Keep beating at it and some day hopefully things will come thru for you guys. I too had some really bad things happen to me in my life and somethings I get shy or back off of. I have come along way though and improve constently cuz I dont want to let it control me, I want to be better. Oh the old you should know what you did and Im not going to tell you ahhh memories, oh wait I still do it . You guys deserve it sometimes though, use that brain once in a while besides for computers and sex . __________________

12-18-2002, 06:00 PM	#42
Spinning Hat Toupee Cover Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Coon Rapids, MN USA Age: 44 Posts: 755	There's more to life than computers and sex? __________________ Never, Never, Never Quit -Winston Churchill

12-19-2002, 01:22 AM	#43
Xenocidez66 Forum Regular Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Iceland Age: 54 Posts: 207	To Spinning Hat: If Stang says there is, there must be. Although I can't imagine. Seriously To Laurelin: Well we really don't have the money to do things like that, but I do buy flowers when I have money and I am a GREAT cook and she gets wounderful meals at least 3 or 4 times a week and just last weekend we had a candle light dinner (alone no Kids). I try to be romantic but Johanna just isn't. She never really has been. Her idea of romantic is taking a hot bath, alone. To Stang: I do remember the way it used to be and back then our situation was diffrent and so was I. I made some huge changes in my life and for the better so I really don't want to do that again. __________________ Knoledge is power. Power corrupts. Study hard. Be evil.

09-09-2004, 07:49 PM	#44
DooMKitty Registered User Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: In Yaks Butt Posts: 56	WHIPS! CHAINS! STRANGLING! BITEING! SCRATCHING! PINCHING! pain turns me on!

09-10-2004, 07:29 AM	#45
yak Threadkiller Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: marysville, washington Age: 39 Posts: 537	keep that quiet kitty, we cant let them know te he __________________ One can smile, and smile, and still be a villian.-William Shakespeare Are you trying to tell me that the man who tried to put a rubber fist in my anus was a uhh.. homosexual?-Borat

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