Well thanks Gambit, that's pretty much were I stand on things right now as well. One day at a time, and that if we do meet in needs to be casual and in a distant time (we can't meet with each other in the next day like she wanted). I also need to tell (if she calls me tonight, which I think she will) that we both won't get the space we need if we keep talking to each other each day. We need to just cut that out and put that off as well. Maybe wait a couple days, or even a week, before calling each other. And when we do, we shouldn't talk about our relationship at all, that should wait until it's the right time. I feel that if I don't stand my ground on this, then we both won't be able to "get over" each other (not that were both moving on, but we need to keep that option open) and that it will just ruin our friendship that we would like to have if we decide to go our seperate ways.
And yes Gambit I have been talking to a lot of other people as well. My dad and brother inlaw have both been here for me to talk to and have given me advice. My older sister has been giving me the "girls POV" in this situation (she's been there before when her and her b/f (now husband) needed to take a break as well). My cousin/closet friend has been there for me to just talk to and to get things out of my mind. I also might talk to my pastor in a week seeing how things go and how I feel in that time. I just like being able to post my feelings and get advice from others as well, because this kinda feels like a "journal" to me (were I can get things out without doing it in person if I don't want to), but I get a response back from the "journal". Well thanks, and I'll be around some other time.
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