Heh.
Some advice from a guy that was single for quite a long while:
don't put all your hopes on one girl. Believe it or not, going out with several girls during the same week is good for you. It really makes you look at all of the girls and see how they differ.
don't necessarily go for the hottest girl in the room. She's getting hit on constantly, and will probably have her defenses up. Go for one of the others that caught your eye.
saying 'hi' is the best "pickup line" you can use. The big thing with dating is quantity. If one girl plays games with you, or doesn't treat you well right away, she doesn't respect you. Move on as quick as you can. Don't EVER second guess yourself... if something isn't right, move on.
don't be so picky that you move on from every single girl. you'll end up like George on Seinfeld: he found fault with EVERY single woman he dated. He also ended up in his thirties with not even a girlfriend. Just think about if the fault is something you could accept. My current girlfriend talks loudly... which is something that my sister does and it annoys me. But at the same time, I can work with it. Different things for different guys. Just don't make the mistake of ruling out a woman for the smallest fault.
(Remember, that you are not perfect either.)
If you come across a beautiful woman and you start to get nervous, remember the silver rule: EVERYONE POOPS!
Get out and meet people. Doesn't matter if they are guys or girls. Meet a lot of people. If meeting people isn't your thing, visit a grocery store a lot. You meet a LOT of interesting people at those places. And sometimes, the women approach you... I got asked out after a woman and I were discussing cucumbers and she noted how phallic they are. I laughed and we went out a few times.
When seeing several people, do NOT tell the women that you are seeing other people. This should be common sense. Only after you've had "the talk" about a monogamous relationship should you consider her your girlfriend. Let the woman bring this up.
And another silver rule for guys in general: NEVER EVER come off desparate. This would include things like hanging out with her ALL THE TIME; or saying how much you love her when you first meet her (never say that until after you've had the talk, and she's stated how she feels first). Or anything else along those lines (I hope those lines were made clear). DON'T FALL IN LOVE WITH HER FIRST! If you do, 9 times out of 10 she'll sense it and consider you desparate... it makes women feel gross. They don't like the feeling of being stalked or pressured or anything like that. And if they do, then you had better move on because they are messed up.
Do things that you enjoy... preferably things that involve other people so you have opportunity to meet new people. You'll feel better about yourself and have opportunity. Women like men that feel good about themselves. Don't take a cynical view of the world... the world becomes a depressing, colorless wasteland if you are cynical.
Keep trying to meet new people. School is an excellent place to do that. You don't have to party or anything, but I recommend at least going to some parties.
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